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La vie est Amour et l’Amour, c’est la vie…
December 6, 2010 in ED Suport&Advocay | Tags: Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, blog, Bulimia Nervosa, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Empowered Parents/Families, Life, Love, musings, Poems | Leave a comment
World’s Apart …
May 16, 2010 in Respite | Tags: eating disorder blog, Life, musings, Nepal, Poetry | 2 comments
: Coming Home :
See the terrestrial sphere
Read an exotic tome
Select a souvenir
The best is coming home
Make an ocean voyage
Dive into briny foam
Watch scavengers forage
The best is coming home
Visit a potter’s field
Explore a catacomb
Grasp all epitaphs yield
The best is coming home
Take cross-country road trips
Walk on bucolic loam
Follow provincial tips
The best is coming home
Let tensions unravel
Permit the feet to roam
Venture every travel
The best is coming home.
-Wallace Dean LaBenne
A Thanksgiving Wish…
November 24, 2009 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, Anorexia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder, blog, Body Acceptance, Bulimia Nervosa, COE (Compulsive Over-Eating), Dieting Behaviors, Eating Disorder Advocacy, ED Hope & Recovery, Empowered Familes, Family & Traditions, Thanksgiving | Tags: Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, Adolescent Eating Disorders and Recovery Stories, anorexia, BED, Bulimia, COE (Compulsive Over-Eating), Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorder Recovery, EDNOS, Family & Culture, Life, Poetry, Thanksgiving Musings | Leave a comment
: Sursis d’été…
July 10, 2009 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, Anorexia Nervosa, blog, Buddhism, Bulimia, Carer Support and Eating Disorders, Culture, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorder Recovery & Advocacy, Eating Disorders, ED recovery, Empowered Familes, Health & Wellbeing, Hiatus, Parent/Family Support and Eating Disorders, Personal Stories | Tags: Adolescent Eating Disorders and Recovery Stories, Anoreixa Nervosa, Bulimia Nervosa, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorders, Empowered Parents/Families, Health, Life, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Poetry, Summer 2009 | 3 comments
And all life’s ripening harvest-fields await
The restless sickle of relentless fate.
But I, sweet Soul, rejoice that I was born,
When from the climbing terraces of corn
I watch the golden orioles of Thy morn.
What care I for the world’s desire and pride,
Who know the silver wings that gleam and glide,
The homing pigeons of Thine eventide?
What care I for the world’s loud weariness,
Who dream in twilight granaries
Thou dost bless
With delicate sheaves of mellow silences?
Say, shall I heed dull presages of doom,
Or dread the rumoured loneliness and gloom,
The mute and mythic terror of the tomb?
For my glad heart is drunk and drenched with Thee,
O inmost wind of living ecstasy!
O intimate essence of eternity!
-Sarojini Naidu
~~ Summer is in full-swing and we are finally escaping for a long overdue respite. Destined long nights, mythical and ancient sites… meditating on cliffs, dusting off the lens and capturing images that provoke and provide aesthetic sustenance. Lingering and contemplative hikes up temple steps that have been etched by devotees feet countless times before– who are we but humble and gracious guests- not the arrogant and time-constrained forceful tourist.
Foraging in sacred forests with gamelons playing in the distance, and dancing deities battling the age-old epic between black&white-good&evil ending with the balance of Life, once again, restored. Then taking what was digested of the day to a lamp lit night to write, write, write. Littering my splattered journal with poetic meanderings that have waited, sometimes it seems far too long, for a time such as this.
Life has certainly been blessed and full of positive changes lately! Our daughter has courageously turned the tables on Anorexia within the past couple of months, and is enjoying a summer filled without “fear“, vibrant, healthy and triumphant in this very moment– we are so extremely proud of her!
Thank you so very much to all of you who are a constant source of human wisdom, compassion and many who have also lent a comforting shoulder to lean on. Along with the ever gracious comrades who work with me tirelessly towards creating our monthly “healing&creative space”– which will return once again late this fall; I really don’t have enough words to do justice in this meager post to give adequate appreciation.
I am deeply grateful for the small patch of ground we continually attempt to uncover to help support those with eating disorders and their families, partners and loved ones. I hope to continue to dig a deeper and wider-reaching network that will eventually have an even greater substantial and purposeful base of resources, along with caring, intelligent and genuine individuals to be of greater service for those who continue to suffer. Patience, time and perserverance– many of us know all too well the meaning of those words, but they truly do remain at the forefront of what long-term recovery entails well after weight-nutritional restoration has been established.
As always, many additional thanks to those who continue to be of support, who listen, read the blog and email, and have allowed me this welcoming space to share our family’s Journey to Recovery– much deep love.
Wishing everyone a relaxing, peaceful and enjoyable summer! See all of you when the leaves begin to crinkle and the crispness of fall begins to fill the air.~~
: السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته :
June 25, 2009 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, blog, Constructs of Pyschological Distress, Culture, Democratic Process, Eating Disorder Suppport&Advocacy, Family & Culture, Global Community, Health & Wellbeing, Parent Advocates, Personal, Poetry, Prayers & Thoughts, Tehran's Voice for Democracy | Tags: anorexia, Bulimia, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorders, Family & Culture, Global Community, Life, Peace&Democracy, Poetry, Tehran Protests, Thoughts | 2 comments
: Happy Deepawali! :
October 29, 2008 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, anorexia, Blogs, Bulimia, Carer Support/Healing, Culture, Disordered Eating Behaviors, Diwali, Eating Disorder Hope & Recovery, Eating Disorder Recovery, Eating Disorders, Eating Disorders and Mental Health, Emotional Healing, Empowered Familes, Family & Culture, Family & Traditions, Healing through Ritual, Laksmi Puja, Life, Meditation Practices&Healing, Mind & Body, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Personal Narratives, Prayers & Thoughts, Sacred Legends, Seasonal Festivals | Tags: blog, Diwali 2008, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Family Life & ED Recovery, Family Traditions/Rituals, Festival of Lights, Life | Leave a comment
On The Road
September 17, 2008 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, anorexia, Anorexia Nervosa, Binge Eating Disorder (BED), blog, Bulimia, Bulimia Nervosa, Carer Support/Healing, COE (Compulsive Over-Eating), cognitive processing and Eating Disorders, Cognitive Rigidity and Anorexia, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorder Hope & Recovery, Eating Disorder Recovery, EDNOS, Empowered Parents, Family & Culture, Healing Families and Eating Disorder Treatment, Health, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Parent Support, Personal Empowerment, Personal Stories, School & Eating Disorder Recovery | Tags: Anorexia Nervosa, blog, Eating Disorder Recovery, Eating Disorders, Empowered Parents/Families, Life, Mom-musing, School and Eating Disorder Recovery Process | 1 comment
Some of the most common events become quite significant when your child has an eating disorder, and at times worry seems to be a constant irritating leach sucking your Mom-force astray even when the coast is clear.
For the past two years our daughter has missed out on class trips due to the pernicious nature of the eating disorder. And as if heading back to school doesn’t already bring with it some added stress and anxiety for a developing young middle-schooler, these trips always take place at the beginning of the year– great idea for setting the tone and building relationships for the school term, not so great idea if your child is trying to gauge the semester and transition in the first couple of weeks tacked on with the complexity of managing an eating disorder.
For the first year of middle school this trip was a no-go. Last year also didn’t happen since she was not yet able to make food-meal choices on her own, as well as eating without some additional support, and being comfortable enough to ask for help if encountering some difficulty and parents and family were not around.
Initial diagnosis of the eating disorder, immediate hospitalization, the following year inpatient and residential treatment, along with intensive outpatient treatment; days-months of missed school, family and social life seem strangely long ago, healing does take time.
This school year is markedly different though, our daughter is actually getting a bit pissy about missing out on certain aspects of teen social life and events her friends and peers seem to do “so easily”. These are things she also did easily, without second thought, prior to the eating disorder and another positive sign that she is remembering and awakening to her former Self.
This year’s “Leadership Trip” my baby is on the road for three days of fun and camaraderie. First to camp, canoeing, rope climbing and mingling while looking at the constellations, second to the State Capital, then finishing off sliding down the plastic tubes of a favored water park, who would want to miss this?
She left this morning her bags packed with extra snacks and necessities, pre-ordered her meals (all by herself- yeah!) and wasn’t embarrassed to give an extra hug.
But my ultimate moment came seeing her classic dimpled smile!
The deeper you resides in its own space,
Ambitious girl!
Green Party : BYOB
May 17, 2008 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, Adolescent Eating Behaviors, anorexia, Anorexia Nervosa, Behavioral Strategies and Eating Disorders, Blogs, Bulimia, Bulimia Nervosa, Carer Support, Carer Support/Healing, Chicago's Green Festival 2008, Chicagoans, Co-op America, COE (Compulsive Over-Eating), Community Health Education, Constructs of Psychological Health, Culture, Eating Disorder Hope & Recovery, Eating Disorders, Eating Disorders and Mental Health, Ecological Issues and Impact on Health, ED advocacy, ED Hope & Recovery, EDNOS, Emotional Healing, Empowered Families, Engaged Families, Environmental Issues and Health Impact, Fair Trade, Family & Culture, Family Meals, Global Community, Green Business and Wellbeing/Health, Green Festivals 2008, Green Party 2008, Healing and Recovery within Eating Disorders, Healing Families and Eating Disorder Treatment, Health & Wellbeing, Healthy Communities, Leading by Example, Life, Love, Midwest Green Festivals, Mind & Body, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Parent Advocates, Parent Support, Parent/Family Support and Eating Disorders, Personal Empowerment, Personal Narratives, Personal Stories, Poetry, Project EAT/Eating Among Teens, Relationships, Seasonal Changes, Seasonal Festivals, Self-Care, Sustainable Living and Wellbeing, Writing & Healing | Tags: anorexia, Anorexia Nervosa, Chicago's Green Festival 2008, Culture/Community, Eating Disorders, Green Festivals, Healing and Recovery with ED's, Healing Families and Eating Disorder Treatment, Health and Healing, Life | Leave a comment
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Well I haven’t been blogging to an idealized expectation… but there is good reason– SPRING!
This time of year is definitely infectious for us. Things are blooming, the soil is deep, dark, rich and inviting (which reminds me, the compost needs turning) and I simply can’t resist when the weather beckons and stays as wonderful as it has. We spend most of our time outdoors when spring and summer arrive so I can only apologize for posting infrequently and sporadically. And this summer we’ll be either vacationing in India, the Rocky Mountains, or beachin’ it on Big Sur– so even more intermittent rambles, c’est ca!
This weekend is also Chicago’s Green Festival and we’ll be heading out for the party. Personally I can’t think of a better way of treating the family with some fun, gorgeous weather, great food and extended community company!
Wishing all of you a very Bountiful, Healthy and Happy Summer!
-shanti
Being an artist
means, not reckoning and counting,
but ripening like the tree
which does not force its sap
and stands confident
in the storms of spring
without the fear that after them
may come no summer
-RAINER MARIA RILKE-
: Bonne Fete des Meres :
May 11, 2008 in Adolescent Anorexia Nervosa, anorexia, Anorexia Nervosa, Art, Blogs, Body Acceptance, Books, Bulimia, Bulimia Nervosa, Carer Support, COE (Compulsive Over-Eating), Creativity, Culture, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorder Hope & Recovery, eating disordered, Eating Disorders, ED advocacy, ED Hope & Recovery, EDNOS, eliminating stigma, Emotional Healing, Empowered Families, Empowered Parents, Engaged Families, Family & Culture, Health & Wellbeing, Largesse, Literary Genres, Love, Love Your Body, Mind & Body, Mother's Day, Mother/Daughter Relationships, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Parent Advocates, Parent/Family Support and Eating Disorders, Personal Stories, Poetry, Poetry/Literature, Psychology and Myth, Relationships, Self-Care, Self-Love, Size Accpetance, Social Bonding, Society and Weight Related Issues, Sociocultural Factors in Eating Disorders, Traditions/Holidays, Writing & Healing | Tags: Adolescent Eating Disorders and Recovery Stories, anorexia, Art, Eating Disorders, ED Recovery and Hope, Engaged Families and Eating Disorder Treatment/Recovery, family, Family & Culture, Family Support and ED's, Life, Love, Love Your Body, Mother's Day, Mothers & Parenting, Parent Empowerement and ED Recovery, Poetry/Literature, Spirituality&Healing, Traditions/Holidays, Women as the Goddess Archetype | Leave a comment
Bon Anniversaire INDD!
May 6, 2008 in Adolescent Eating Behaviors, anorexia, Anorexia Nervosa, Anti- Diet Campaign, Behavioral Health, Behavioral Strategies and Eating Disorders, Blogs, Body Acceptance, Books, Bulimia, Bulimia Nervosa, Carer Support, Cheri Erdman EdD, COE (Compulsive Over-Eating), Cognitive Processing and Effects of Dieting, Community Health Education, Constructs of Pyschological Distress, Culture, Diet Breaking, Dieting Behaviors, Dieting Industry, Disordered Eating Behaviors, Eating Disorder Advocacy, Eating Disorder News, Eating Disorder Recovery, Eating Disorder Research, Eating Disorders, Eating Disorders and Mental Health, ED advocacy, ED Hope & Recovery, ED's and the Media, EDNOS, Empowered Families, Empowered Parents, Engaged Families, Environmental factores influencing ED's, Evidence Based Treatment for Eating Disorders, Evidence-Based Medicine, Family & Culture, Family Based Therapy, Fat Acceptance, Genetic Analysis and Eating Disorders, Genetic and Environmental causes of ED's, Health, Health & Wellbeing, Imprinting and Addictive Processes, INDD, International No Diet Day, Karen Stimson, Largesse, Love Your Body, Mary Evans Young, Mind & Body, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Parent Advocates, Parent Support, Personal, Personal Narratives, Public Health, Public Health and Nutrition, Raj Patel, Self-Care, Size Accpetance, Size Esteem, Society and Weight Related Issues, Socio-Cultural Factors and Advertising to Promote ED's, Stuffed and Starved, Thoughts | Tags: "No Diets", anorexia, Anti- Diet Campaign, Body Acceptance, Books, Cheri Erdman EdD, cognitive processing and Eating Disorders, Cognitive Processing and Effects of Dieting, Community Health Education, Constructs of Pychological Stress, Diet Addiction & Society, Diet Breaking, Dieting Behaviors, Eating Disorder Recovery/Support, Eating Disordered Behaviors, Eating Disorders, Empowered Parents, environmental factors influencing ED's, Evidence-Based Medicine, Fat Acceptance, Genetics and Body Composition, Health, INDD, International No Diet Day 2008, Karen Stimson, Largesse, Life, Love Your Body, Marketing and Diets, Mary Evans Young, Media and Promotion of Dieting, Parent Activism and Eating Disorders, Parent Adovcates and ED's, Parents Against Diets, Public Health and Nutrition, Public Health News and Information, Raj Patel, Recovery, Self-Care, Self-Esteem and Dieting Behaviors, Size Acceptance, Size Esteem, Society and Weight Related Issues, Socio-Cultural Factors and Dieting Behavior, Stuffed and Starved, The Network For Size Esteem, Thoughts, Weight-Loss Industry | 2 comments
I love how the birth of International No Diet Day began “from a picnic in Mary’s living room” in the early ’90’s and fertilized it’s magnitude world-wide. Ms Evans-Young is herself a recovered anorexic and wrote the book Diet Breaking: Having it all Without Having to Diet and it couldn’t be a better time than now to let the message sink in– deep and with reflection.
Largesse gives the background on the term: size esteem which was initially coined by Richard Stimson, husband to a contributing director/writer at the site, Karen Stimson who explains it perfectly:
– Feeling acceptance of, respect for, and pride in one’s body, whatever its size or shape –
But I like this analogy even more highlighted by Cheri Erdman EdD who wrote the book Live Large! and thought about it as a simple yet poignant equation: Size Acceptance + Self Esteem = SIZE ESTEEM
Either way you think about it, the insanity of dieting, wanting to force our bodies to be a size/shape it was not genetically determined to be– and thankfully so for the beautiful variety of shapes, sizes, colors, we all add to the collage of life, is quite dubious.
It’s even further magnified when you or a loved one suffer from an eating disorder and are trying to regain your health and follow through with recovery and maintaining wellness in a seemingly endless fat-phobic, diet-crazed, fashion-consumed environment. Our daughter at times can take on this incessant self-doubt and accusational inquiries about why she has to eat what she has to when others, her classmates, etc. eat less than she does and are constantly discussing “fat” laden topics— it’s enough to make anyone go a little bonkers. Advertisers, marketing, the health ins field, even health care (hey, let’s face it– those mega-million dollar hospitals that now look more like shopping malls want to treat the ill business) and the all time winner: the diet industry.
Stuffed and Starved is a title from researcher Raj Patel more about food prices, the global-glut, etc. but I had to think about this a little bit more this morning how it really ties into so many other layers of Life– and will be worth dissecting and playing off the similar as well as dissimilar dualities we can only pretend don’t exist, or just think is someone else’s “problem” to fix, get over, medicate– like the cliched remark I’ve heard countless times since our daughter was diagnosed with anorexia- “why doesn’t she just eat?!”, then the instant turn against parents when our children don’t eat = it’s your fault, you did something “wrong”, etc.
Yes, INDD is a day we find relative and meaningful in our family. And with the weather reaching low 70’s, sun shining– I think a picnic is just what we’ll do to celebrate this day!
-shanti
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